15 Songs About Loving Someone You Can’t Have

Songs about loving someone you can’t have is the best companion you can go with to deal with the frustration of unrequited love.

Usually, we go through life with all its numerous challenges. These challenges come in different stages, with one of the most challenging time of life being that of adolescents.

Most times, young people tend to discover what it means to have a crush on the opposite gender. Sometimes they are lucky to find that the one they like feels the same way about them. on the other hand, others get the bad luck of liking someone who doesn’t feel the same way.

Loving someone who doesn’t feel the same way is not restricted to just adolescents or teenagers, in fact much older people experience this as well.

There are quite a number of reasons for which love may not be returned as hoped. They may include; The person doesn’t like you as a person, the person likes you as a friend but not attracted to you, there are probably societal or family boundaries, the person is already hooked to someone else etc. Nevertheless, it hurts really bad to not have your love reciprocated. If you happen to find yourself in this situation, be rest assured that you are not alone- at least a lot of people have passed through the pain and some are still passing through it.

However, you can ease your heart by employing the companion of really good songs about loving someone you can’t have. Various music stars have made songs about this. Therefore, here are 15  of some of these songs.

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Songs About Loving Someone You Can’t Have

1. I want it that way (Backstreet Boys)

With the many hit songs the Backstreet Boys have, one might be surprised if they have no song that spoke about unreciprocated love. However, one would expect this group of boys to be the crush of many which of course they are, but instead, they sing about their own love who is not the same level of affection as the group would like. Nevertheless, they wouldn’t mind having the love any way they can just as long as their love doesn’t leave.

2. You Don’t Know My Name (Alicia Keys) 

Its hard enough that your crush doesn’t feel the same way about you, what if your crush doesn’t even know you exist. This classic by Alicia Keys speaks to a lot of people in this situation. In this song, she talks about all the fantasies that build up in her head about what a first date, hugs, and kisses with her crush would look like if only he noticed her.


3.  All I Ask (Adele) 

You can’t go wrong with Adele “the queen of heartbreaking ballads.” This song “All I ask” speaks about a guy who is willing to be around her but is not willing to return her love emotionally and intimately.  But she sings passionately even as she asks him to grant her one last request on their final night together. She asks him to hold her as more than a friend, that though she knows he is leaving for good, he should oblige her because she is not sure she would ever fall in love again.


4. Memphis (Justin Bieber)

Justin Bieber plays the role of a man who is obsessed with this girl who is playing hard to get. But he actually admits that she probably makes it difficult for him because she has been hurt by others guys in the past but he beckons on her to give him a chance. More so, he pleads with her to tell him what he has to do to make her believe that he can give her all she needs. So lady, whoever you are, we ask you to take a chance on the Beiber he might just be the best one for you.

5. Anything Could Happen (Ellie Goulding) 

This song by Ellie is one the that is quite self-explanatory. She sings to her crush who is unwilling to reciprocate her love on basis that he isn’t attracted to her. Here, she tells him to give them a chance that anything could happen, he might be surprised to discover that she is the girl for him.

6. I Want the One I Can’t Have (The Smiths) 

The title says it all. Of course, when thinking about heartbreak songs your playlist would be incomplete without “The Smiths.” You like someone and you just know that no matter how hard you try you both can never be together because of circumstances beyond your control. In this case, the song talks about wanting the one you can’t have. Sometimes we come across situations where we don’t like those who have a crush on us and in the same way, those we have a crush on may not feel the same way about us, therefore, leading to a roller coaster of emotions.

7. The Hardest Thing (98 Degrees)
Songs about loving someone you can't have

This 90’s boy band “98 degrees” came alive with this mid-tempo song about doing the right thing. Here the group talks about leaving a side chick to stay loyal to the day one girl in their lives. They admit that though they love their side chicks they feel it will be better to stay faithful to one woman. Even though it hurts them to let the side girl go but they have to do it and they seem quite heartbroken by it.

The most emotional lyrics in the song is  “It’s the hardest thing I’ll ever have to do, to look you in the eye and tell you I don’t love you. It’s the hardest thing I’ll ever have to lie, to show no emotion when you start to cry.”

8. Stephen (Kesha)

If there is one music star that can write a smash hit pop anthem, look no further than her majesty “Kesha.” The song opens in such a way that she continually calls out her crush’s name “Stephen,” and asks him why he doesn’t call her back. She further admits that although she knows that he has a girlfriend- she says that she is ugly and thus “Stephen” should be with her. In the video, however, she becomes highly obsessed with the guy to the point that she gets him drunk and lures him to her house and thus bounds him in the closet in order to keep him for herself. He manages to escape and this throws her into a terrible state of paranoia. Hmmm! we feel your pain Kesha, but we don’t want to be in this situation with you. It seems really bad.

9.  What It Takes (Aerosmith)

“Tell me what it takes to let you go” these striking lyric sent chills down the spines of people especially going through a serious heartbreak. In this song, Aerosmith sings about being in a relationship that was full of struggles, though he loved her deeply, she still left him. Therefore he desperately tries to find out what it takes to let the one you loved dearly out of your heart and mind.

10. Adore (Cashmere Cat ft. Ariana Grande)

In this melodious ballad songstress, Ariana Grande lends her voice. “Adore” is a song that talks about how she totally loves a guy and desperately hopes he returns the affection. Even though she knows that he doesn’t really fancy her, she still tries to make him understand that they can work something out because she adores him.

11. Crush (Mandy Moore)

Sweet candy Mandy Moore gives us this number in which she gushes on about her crush. She goes on and on about how she can’t seem to think straight whenever she sees him. She also admits that it’s just a roller coaster of emotions in her mind thinking of just how beautiful and simple life would be with him by her side, the only problem is that he has a girlfriend which she sings its really bad.

12. Oh So Quiet (Björk)

“Oh so quiet” is one oddly weird song by Bjork that talk about the joy of being in love with someone. She sings about the sparks and rushes you get from seeing your crush with the hope that he or she notices you and probably says hi. When this doesn’t happen or go as planned, everything goes quiet again. This, the singer says is hurtful and I’m sure most of us can relate.

13. I Can’t Make You Love Me (Bon Iver)

When you take a listen to songs like this, you tend to wonder what the writer was thinking or feeling when writing the song. This soul-crushing ballad resonates clearly the pain the singer is obviously going through when he says that though he really wished he could but he knows he can’t make his crush love him the way he does her.

14. You Belong With Me (Taylor Swift)

You just can’t have a heartbreak song without pop diva “Taylor Swift.” In this song she tells her crush who only sees her as a friend, to leave his bad relationship with his current girlfriend who obviously takes him for granted. She passionately sings to him saying that they belong together, and she is the perfect one for him.

15. 1000 Times (Sarah Bareilles) 

This prolific singer with an amazing yet soulful voice ” Sarah Bareilles” comes through with this wonderful song about loving someone deeply and knowing fully well that he doesn’t like her the way she wants. She knows that being friends with such a guy would make her hurt 1000 times more but she doesn’t care. She feels that she would rather hurt for as long as possible than stand the risk of losing both his friendship as well as imaginary love. How sad!

We know how hurtful it could be to love someone you can’t have because of various reasons, however, songs can be a good companion to help you through this phase, thus check out the above selection of 15 songs about loving someone you can’t have. They are sure to brighten your day.

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