There are times when we find it difficult to forget about someone especially because of the role they played in our life. You try so hard to stop thinking about the person but can’t just get them out of your head. It could be someone who was cruel to you or in most cases, an ex-lover. You could be madly in love with someone who you eventually build a relationship with or even get married to and all of a sudden everything comes crashing.
Forgetting such people can be more difficult than a herculean task. How do you get over that person, stop thinking about them and get on with your life? This article addresses this issue. Following the ideas outlined here will help you stop thinking about someone or that person you’ve always wanted to get off your head and move on with your life.
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How To Stop Thinking About Someone
No matter the reason you have to stop thinking about someone, the ways of doing so are quite similar. Here are few ideas that can help you to stop thinking about someone.
Take the Decision:
The very first step to every action is to take a firm decision on what you want to do and stay on that decision. The same applies here. What do you really want to do? Stop obsessing about someone; forget the person completely, etc. You need to make up your mind on what you want to do and stand firmly on it. Sometimes clarity is all it takes to make a progress and face reality.
Do not try to ignore the fact that what happened actually happened. No matter the incident, trying to ignore or avoid thinking about it is no solution. Accept it and spend few days may be a day or two brooding over it yourself. If you need to cry, please do. But once you feel saturated with the thoughts and cries, get up and move on.
Never Feign Memory Loss:
Do not try to pretend like you don’t miss that person (especially in the case of a breakup). Don’t try to pretend like the person never existed in your life. All you have to do is to focus on the ways you can avoid getting affected by it.
Do Not Contact Them Or Bump Into Them:
It is easy to believe that your breakup is just temporary thereby fantasizing about a reunion and consequently harbor thoughts of contacting the person. If you have made that decision to forget the person, then it’s time you dwell on the contrary which is giving up on plotting ways to contact the person. Delete the contacts you have and try not to go to places you’re sure you could bump into the person
Think Of The Person’s Bad Side:
This does not sound quite cool but sometimes, it could be the only way to shake off someone in your head especially when you’ve been smitten by them. Think of the fact that the person wasn’t as perfect as you imagined them to be. Remembering their flaws could be a way to stop falling in love with someone
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Avoid Being Depressed:
Being dumped by someone you were in a relationship with could bring a lot of baggage which includes depression and low self-esteem. Try to have a good laugh and enjoy yourself. Engage in activities that will cheer you up like comedy, and adventures. Do not allow yourself to get into depression.
Moments of loneliness metamorphoses into a lot of thinking and one of the things you’re surely going to think about is that person who hurt you so much. An idle mind they say is the devil’s workshop. So keep yourself engaged, get busy and avoid lonely periods.
Don’t Stalk Them Online:
This is one of the most difficult things to do. You would want to check the person’s social media timelines, see what they’ve posted, where they are, if they are happy without you or not. These are actions that will keep your head filled with that person. If you really want to get them off your head, quit stalking them whether physically or online. You’ll never move on unless you keep all news about this person away from you.
Learn Something New:
If there’s something you’ve always wanted to learn but never got the time to do so, this is the perfect time. Learn something new, something you’re excited about, it could be playing an instrument, a sporting activity or attending dance classes. Doing this will fill your mind with happy thoughts which will gradually wipe off the depressive thoughts about that person.
Avoid Romantic Movies:
Avoid seeing romantic movies or shows and listening to romantic songs. This will not help you at all as it will only stir up memories and locked up emotions and probably turn you into a sadist. Instead, see comedy movies, adventures, action and any other thing without romance in it.
Go On Vacation, Visit New Places:
Sometimes, all you need to move on is a change of environment. Go on vacation visiting places you’ve never been to, focus on new things accepting the fact that the person has moved on with their life which means you have to move on with yours.
Quit Discussing That Person:
Talk about anything but that person. Avoid discussing with your friends about the person you’re trying to forget even when they (your friends) try to bring it up. Discussing them will only stir up thoughts you’ll go pondering on after the discussion.
Remember these few tips and try to use them. They will definitely help you quit thinking about this person. Always remember that this person has moved on with their life and probably is thinking about someone else. So believe in yourself and get on with your life.