Funeral services are never easy to attend; the atmosphere is usually down and most times, attending one is emotionally tasking. Through it all, you have to balance grief with diplomacy to ensure you don’t act or speak out of place. However, your words matter and this is why you should always know what to say at a funeral. When chosen carefully, your kind words can help the family of the deceased; it can also remind fellow attendees that the deceased was loved. However, if not chosen carefully, one wrong word can make the already depressing affair so much worse. With that in mind, here’s what to say at a funeral.

Remember to modify this to fit the situation

What To Say At A Funeral Service (To The Grieving Family)

1. Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

2. When you’re ready to talk, please feel free to call me. I’m a good listener.

3. I am so sorry for your loss.

4. I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way I can.

5. Give a hug instead of saying something.

6. I will miss him/her.

7. I have such fond memories of your aunt/uncle/brother/cousin/father. She/he will be missed by many

8. I cannot tell you how sorry I was to hear about your dad. I was shocked and saddened by the news. Please extend my sympathy to your mom and the rest of your family.

9. I am so sorry. Your father was loved by many.

10. This must be so hard for you.

11. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you

12. Your mom was a wise woman, and at the same time, she had a great sense of humor. Se will be missed greatly and remembered often.

13. Your husband was a great guy. I enjoyed working with him, and I will miss his sense of humour. I just want to let you know that I am sorry for your loss.

14. I am always just a phone call away

15.  The love and joy that this child brought to us all is something I will forever miss and treasure. I am very sorry for your loss.

16. He/she lived a full life and was an inspiration to me and many others.

17. I/We are shocked and saddened by your loss. We care and love you deeply.

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18. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything

19. You are in my thoughts/I’m thinking of you.

20. I wish I had the right words, just know I care.

What To Say At A Funeral – Speech

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21. No one can prepare you for a loss; it comes like a swift wind. However, take comfort in knowing that he/she is now resting in the arms of our Lord.

22. “Name of Deceased” will remain in our hearts forever

23. Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know that they are happy.

24. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal

25. Despite the loss of the physical presence of your (insert relationship of deceased to bereaved here.) We know that God has assigned him/her to watch over you throughout your life. We/I feel for your loss, our/my most sincere condolences.

26. Remembering you and “name of deceased” in our minds and in our hearts.

27. At this difficult time in your life, we/I pray that God will grant you the serenity and peace that you need to get through this.

28. Losing someone we love is nothing easy, but knowing that we have been able to be a part of the life of that person, we can realize that we are blessed to have been able to share in his/her life before he/she went to rest in eternal salvation.

29. Leo Buscaglia is credit for saying, I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.

30. With a heavy heart, we pray for the eternal repose of one who was a man of distinguished humanity.

31. His kind face remains forever in our image. You retired quietly, the same way you live in the world of good and righteous. May God watch you sleep forever my dear husband / brother.

32. “Name of deceased” brought so many gifts to our life. We will never forget him/her!

33. A beautiful soul, full of love and faith, ascended to heaven, away from me, but closer to God, leaving loneliness and sadness.

34. As you grieve know that we are remembering you and honoring the memory of “name of the deceased”.

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35. Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.

36. In this tough time in your life, may my/our friendship, sympathy and heartfelt condolences bring you comfort.

37. May his/her soul rest in peace, I firmly believe that God will accept him/her with open arms for all the good he/she has done while he/she was on this earth.

38. May the soul of the dearly departed rest in peace, may my/our prayers help guide him/her on his journey to our Creator.

39. William Penn once said “They say love beyond the world cannot be separated by it.  Death cannot kill what never dies”.

40. “You don’t get over it, you just get through it. You don’t get by it, because you can’t get around it. It doesn’t ‘get better’; it just gets different. Everyday… Grief puts on a new face…” Wendy Feireisen

41. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.

42. After the tears have dried and the goodbyes have been said, all we have to hold onto are the happy memories that we’ve shared with our loved ones who have passed, this is what keeps them alive in our hearts and in our minds, and they will continue to live on, through us.

43. A person that departs from this earth never truly leaves, for they are still alive in our hearts and minds, through us, they live on.

44. Helen keller once said, “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”

45. Words may not suffice to express the heartfelt sorrow that we/I feel for the passing of your (insert relationship of deceased to bereaved here.)

what to say at a funeral

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46. I am honored and blessed to have known your (insert relationship of deceased to bereaved here.) He/She was truly a blessing in my/our life/lives and I/we will miss him/her.

47. May fond memories of your (insert relationship of deceased to bereaved here) bring you comfort during this hard time in your life. Look back on all the good memories you were able to have and smile at the fact that you were able to share these before he/she passed away.

48. Words seem inadequate to express the sadness we feel about “name of deceased” death.

49. With loving memories of “name of deceased”,

50. When we lose a loved one here on earth, we gain an angel in heaven that watches over us. May you take comfort in knowing that you have an angel to watch over you now.